I see life as a PARADOX

A paradox is defined as a statement that contradicts itself, i.e. "'I always lie.' If it true it must be false."


I have come to the decision that all of society and life is a living paradox. IF EVERYONE IN LIFE IS TRUE, THEY MUST BE FALSE.


Doesn't that sound a little accurate? Those that claim they are closest and truest friends follow suit and end up "being true" by showing that they are false friends. They may have the truest of intentions, however, they let their own sentiments and opinions overshadow what is more meaningful....your feelings and emotions.

I write this insert into my list of opinions not so much for myself, but this time for everyone else and for one particular reader. No matter how many times you tell some one something they can still let it fade from memory. The best part about writing something out is that it is like making it permanently known. Once the words are published there is no way to undo the lasting impression they can have on someone. These words I write are to show that there is more to life then the false people we meet.

These "paradoxical" people will burn you time and again. The greatest part about being the people that we are is our ability to be resilient and bounce back. It is true that we may not always bounce as high as other times, but we still will bounce. The only down side is when a person finally gives up bouncing. I don't want you to stop. The phrase "sticks and stones" was never written by someone who has experienced the things said that some today have experienced. I have unfortunately been on both sides. As I have made clear in previous blogs, I am sorry.... However, those words will stick with you, one way or another, for life. That is why I am saying, forget about them and their hurtful, thoughtless words.

You can burn down a forest and it will sprout and grow back. You burn it enough times and not just the trees, but also the soil will be burned. Once that happens, it will die deep down inside and never truly be worth anything again. People can only bounce back on their own so many times before the momentum stops. If there isn't another person there to keep the momentum going deep down inside we will end up feeling like nothing is worth anything. No matter what some people may say or not say...I'm still here to help. I still plan on keeping everything bouncing along. No one is ever really alone, and just because some may act like a paradox towards us that doesn't mean all are.

What if someone finally is being sincere? Just keep asking yourself, "What about next time?" Not everyone will be false, there may be moments it may feel like it, but everyone gets someone that is genuine at least once in their lives. Your time is coming up if you haven't already gotten there. Let the skeletons out or keep them bottled up, it doesn't matter in the long run once you have reached that point because as long as you don't act "paradoxical" towards that someone, they have no reason to ever doubt you or turn their back on you in word or deed. There is more to life then what meets the eye, even if we don't ever want to believe it.

People will from time to time let reality seep in and see the deeper, honest meaning of things. Sometimes they will completely ignore it and move past. To each person is their own decision, I'm not trying to make it for them. However, just because they see something one way doesn't mean we have to let them "in" and let them burn our forest down. We can let the flame extinguish before it has time to ignite anything. That is what is great about that other person being there to help our momentum. It may be one person, it may be many people, but there are those that see us for our TRUE self. They can see past our shadows, secrets and our skeletons.

Our past may help form and define us; however, it doesn't make us. We all have control of our futures. WE ALL DECIDE WHAT KIND OF PERSON WE ARE AND HOW WE WANT TO LIVE AND ACT IN OUR FUTURES. No one's words can ever take that from us. They can't make us do what's right or wrong. Forget the bad, just remember you will always make mistakes. That is why they are called mistakes. The greatest part is that we can do the right thing just as easily....


....do what you feel is right. You are not alone...I won't let you be.

And that is me letting YOU know that I see something different then they do.